In this episode, Kris Simpson discusses the 3 most important words in the English language that we can’t use enough: PLEASE, THANK-YOU AND SORRY.
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I have three essential things to tell you. First of all, I want to thank you. I want to thank you for being here with me, for listening to me. If you’ve commented or asked any questions and if I haven’t gotten back to you, I’m sorry. I’m sorry for you feeling like I was ignoring you. I overlooked any messages that you might have sent me or any questions that you did have.
And I also want to please ask you to share this message if this message was important to you if it helped you, if it changed you in any positive way I’d love for you, and I ask you to please share this message with other people.
Those are the three essential things I need to express to you.
And those are the three most important words I feel in my opinion, in the English language.
Thank you. Please. Sorry.
These are the words that are probably not used enough that we all have the ability to use and I think that in so many cases that not only would it help us to navigate through life a little easier, but it would also help the people around us. The people that we know and the people that we don’t even know – just any people that we come into any contact with if we’re using those three words a little bit more often then I think this world is going to be a better place. So let’s break it down here. Let’s start with the first one there. Thank you.
When I express that word either internally or externally, it just feels right for me. I don’t know about you, but whenever I vocalize that word, it makes me feel great. I love saying thank you. In fact I have a morning ritual I called the 4-B’s of being present and the “B’s” stand for first your breath then your beat (your heartbeat) but also paying attention to what you’re blessed with – and when I focus on what I’m blessed with – it’s it’s the words of “thank you”.
I use internal dialogue for of all the things that I’m grateful for but I purposefully use that word “thank you” because it gives me that feeling of gratitude. Words have meanings. We know that it’s our language and it really defines who we are and it defines who we think other people are in the way that we speak to them.
So it’s imperative that we put high importance on the words or the language that we use and I find that that particular word is for me perfect for generating and cultivating those feelings of gratitude – and who wouldn’t want to feel those types of emotions. I don’t feel enough of those feelings. I think I have to work at creating these and that’s why I have a morning routine. And the fourth “B” is what I wish to be blessed with. And that’s where we use the second word of “please”. And that’s where I ask my own higher power to please grant me certain blessings that will help me help others.
I never ask for something for myself even if I do use the word “please” it’s always something that I could use for myself, but in the long run, it is always going to help others. So I purposefully again use the word “please.”
Now we could say that it’s just good manners or it’s being a good Canadian. For example that we use the word please but I think it’s much more than that.
I think that when we say please there’s a certain amount of surrendering in us, there’s a certain amount of vulnerability and uncomfortableness because of that surrendering. The surrendering experience makes us feel vulnerable. But I think that that brings a certain amount of humbleness or humility into one’s life. It helps me stay to proper size so that my ego doesn’t get ahead of me and I understand that I am one person in 7 billion people in the world and that I do need other people. I need to stay connected to them; I need to treat them well. I need to serve them, and of course, I’ve got needs too but when I’m asking them to help me in any way, I want to recognize them with the respect that they deserve and the best word for me to use is the word “please.”
So onto the final word. If we’re good mannered please and thank you is the common, but this word is a tough word to actually get out of our mouths because typically it means that we have screwed up and that we have made some sort of mistake that requires us to apologize – and the word that we could use is “sorry”.
Now I say that with a bit of hesitation because the word “sorry” sometimes is an overused word and perhaps doesn’t have an authenticity to it. For example, maybe that person says sorry way too many times, and they haven’t changed anyway so what’s the sense of them apologizing again when they’re just going to do it again. But if there is a real honest, authenticness about the apology and maybe it’s followed up with “Hey I’m gonna do it differently next time because I don’t want to have to tell you I’m sorry again”, then you may be able to accept the apology and forgive.
Because let’s face, it a lot of our suffering, or internal pain, is because we haven’t forgiven. There is a lot of people and maybe things out there that that remain “Unforgiven” and they’re just sort of in the closet or in the back of our mind. You might not have opened that closet in a while, but it will be opened by some booby trap trigger because something else happens in your life and you remember that memory of being wronged. And then BOOM there it is – and it’s not a great feeling. So expressing a “sorry” is a significant thing not just for the receiving person, but also for the person saying it because they need to forgive themselves. In a lot of cases that’s really where the struggle is: in self-forgiveness. When we forgive ourselves for different things, we can start to forgive other people that have done wrong to us. But it all starts with self-forgiving and having self-compassion which allows us to give compassion and forgiveness to other people. Therefore, it all starts with us.
As this week goes on, as this month goes on, I would ask you to practice saying these three words as much as possible. Saying them externally to other people, but also to yourself. To say sorry to yourself if you’ve let yourself down or if you didn’t meet a certain expectation that you set for yourself. Words are either empowering or they’re disempowering – and we have to remember that those words that we use internally will either empower us or disempower us. And likewise the words that we spit out into the world will either stick as being an empowering source of energy for someone, or it will take power away from them.
On that note; thank you – thank you for being here and listening. And thank you for being part of this inspirational community. And if the is message was meaningful to you, I’ll ask you to please share it with someone significant to you.
Inspire to aspire,
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